My husband was active duty air force for 20 years, and is just recently retired.
It is a totally different way of life, but you get used to it. You have no other choice.
We have spent many birthdays, anniversaries, thanksgivings, and christmases apart. My husband has missed his fair share of kids lost teeth and school plays. I could go on forever, but I won't.
I know many people want to help the military and their families.
I know that for a while, sending pkgs. to an active duty member had to be ADDRESSED to a particular member. Due to high security and safety issues, they were no longer able to accept pkgs. addressed to any service member. If you contact a military base near you and ask to speak to the family support center, they often times will collect items that are being sent to their troops overseas. Many churches, etc. in your area, are most likely doing the same, and if not, why not start one yourself? I know firsthand from my hubby that they LIVE for the mail! Chocolate does not fare well, but any other types of treats, small games, fun stuff, pocket calendars, baby wipes to wash up, etc. Everything is shared and appreciated.
If you DO contact a Family Support center, please ask what you can also do for the family. Sometimes we are forgotten. Many wives are pregnant or have a new baby and are in need of small things like diapers, bibs, etc etc. Services are the #1 thing always appreciated. Maybe you know someone with a lawn service who would be happy to "adopt" a military family while the spouse is away and offer free lawn mowing! BELIEVE ME, IT IS A GODSEND!
One of the biggest things is how the family left behind ends up being forgotten after a time. In the beginning, friends, family etc are all well meaning and willing to help, but then somehow get wrapped up in their own day to day lives and forget what we are going thru each day. It doesnt get easier as time goes on, it gets harder. If you are looking to help a military member or his family, i say GO FOR IT. It will be appreciated more than you will ever know. I've been there, I know. -
craftheart-I am going to add a small note. Please remember the Veterans. I would ask your local Veteran's Administration Hospital if you could volunteer your time when you have a few hours here and there to spare.
Buy a poppy for their annual fundraiser.
When you enjoy your hometown parade, cheer and clap loudly for your marching ex and currently active members as they pass by.